A friend reminded me of this recently:

You have to be bad at something before you can be good at it.

Of course my brain went straight to this:

Is that true of parenting and empty nesting?

Do you need to be bad at it before you can be good at it?

I received the following question from my Ask Me Anything Anonymously series on Instagram:

“My husband is so excited our kids are out of the house and I’m devastated. I don’t know how to relate to him and I’m so angry about it. Help.”

This is not an uncommon scenario.

One parent may experience a tougher time when the kids grow up and move on than their spouse or partner.

The reason?

It lies in the human experience and family dynamics. [read more]

From an early age you never got to see what life would be like when you hit your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond. 

And when the time comes – even though you know it’s coming – you somehow find yourself wondering, “how the heck did that happen?”

You might even ask, “did this ALL go like I had planned?”

And you might be feeling a little lost in life now.

Last Sunday, I was reminded of this exact thing. Our weekly hike didn't quite go as planned.

Some might say THAT is a recipe for disaster [read more]

In every life transition - college, getting married, taking on a new job, getting fired, and, of course, the kids leaving home – there are three components to them which require you to strengthen your TQ.

So what, exactly, is TQ? [read more]

You might be thinking you don't have time to take care of yourself.

Or that you've tried and failed in the past.

Or maybe you decided you're just too old to start taking care of yourself -- what's the point, right?

Your health and wellness is the foundation upon which you'll build a life you love.

It's the starting point for moving forward into this new now in your life. [read more]

The Challenge of Change. If you look closely, change has challenge inside of it, and every challenge is surrounded by change:

CHA-LLE-NGE

In my work as a life coach I like to think of the L.L.E. within challenge as: LET. LIFE. EVOLVE.

All too often you want to hold on to what was because it is familiar, and easy, and routine. Your brain LOVES familiar, easy, and routine because that is less work for the machine in your head.

The harder you resist change, the longer it takes to accept.

Your kid(s) are meant to fly.

Deep down you know this to be true AND it's one of the hardest things to accept -- in the moment.

If there's one thing I've learned from my journey and those of my clients it's this:

The more time you spend waiting to be involved in your kids' adult lives the longer and harder it becomes to be involved in your OWN life. [read more]

Today, while hiking, I asked one of my fellow hikers what they meant when they said they wanted to do more uncomfortable things this year (kudos to them for setting such an awesome goal).

When I asked what that meant specifically, they explained all the ways in which they wanted to be more comfortable with being uncomfortable. [read more]